Here we go. *sighs* Valentine’s Day is this Tuesday, but I’m sure most of you already celebrated with your men, or women (for the few men who are reading this post) over the weekend. I hate Valentine’s Day with a passion. There…I said it.
Back in the day, I would show how deep my disdain for Valentine’s Day was by telling everyone I came in contact with 'Happy V.D.' Yup, you read that right…VD as in venereal disease. It gave me a great amount of satisfaction to put a stain on a day that I hated so much.
Maybe I hated Valentine’s Day so much because out of the 38 years that I have been alive, I only had two Valentines on the actual day. My other Valentine’s Days were spent hiding out in my house hoping the day would quickly pass so I could resurface again.
What was supposed to be a day to show the people in your life that you love them has now become so commercialized that single people feel like they are the scum of the Earth. If you don’t have someone to buy you chocolates, to shower you with jewelry or take you to a movie, you feel like your worth has reached an all-time low. Valentine’s Day has taught most people that it is better to be linked up no matter what the cost.
This year I feel slightly different about Valentine’s Day. I have absolutely no desire to be linked up. After dealing with my daughter’s father, I have now been cured of the need to be with another man. Oh, you’re going to say that I’ll get over it. Hmmmm. After all I’ve been through, I don’t think so.
This Valentine’s Day also feels different because I have been introduced to the love of my life…my daughter. She’s going to be the one that I hold and tell her how much I love her. She’s going to be the one that I’ll look deep into her eyes and savor the rich “chocolatetyness” of them. She’s going to be the one that I cherish, that I hope will be with me forever.
To all you single folks out there, Happy Valentine’s Day. Don’t let your worth be defined by this one day. And if it makes you feel any better, those folks who are coupled up are probably miserable. They’re just putting on a show. I love you and ‘Happy VD’. ;-)